The other day I posted a list of things you should never, ever say to a single woman. Today I would like to give you a list of things that should be said! The Bible says that life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Our words have the ability to either bring life or death to someone's faith. Let's choose life.
Waiting on the Lord for romance is tough. It takes an abundance of resolve. And there are always plenty of days and nights when the enemy comes to plague us with fear and doubt and loneliness. YOU can be a tool used by God to encourage a young girl to have faith, keep waiting, and to lean on Jesus. Here are some things you can say that will no doubt give her a little more "oomph" to hold on on a little longer.
- Oh bless you. Your future husband is already a lucky man! Because he is, right? Her future husband, if he has an ounce of Godliness in him, will be over-the-moon thankful that his bride is a woman of integrity and faithfulness. Remind her of this!
- What a wise thing to do! Proverbs tells us over and over again that wisdom comes from listening and following the commands of God. He commanded us to be pure and to save ourselves for marriage. Praise her for guarding her heart and obeying Christ when this world is saturated with flippant disobedience.
- Can I pray for you? Oh yes, indeed. She needs it. Her spirit is craving someone who cares enough to listen and to strengthen her faith. It's hard being alone. Many times, you are treated like a weirdo or an outcast. She needs support and the power of prayer covering her. This will encourage her greatly.
- You will be glad you did that. Yes she will! One day she will look back and be so thankful that she was faithful. Deep down, she knows it will be worth it but she needs to hear other people repeat that truth in her ear.
- What a testimony to others! Whether she is 18 or 38 years old, she has a testimony. She has a platform. She has the opportunity to gather others together and encourage them! Maybe by her words. Maybe by her example. Remind her that others are watching and because of her devotion to Jesus and her choice to live a set-apart life, she is a shining beacon that can light the way for others to come to Jesus simply by watching her life of holiness and strength. This is powerful.