Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Addicted to Drama

The other day was one of "those days" for me. My little boy was sick with the flu, my spring cleaning agenda was derailed, I fought an army of invading ants and, to top it off, one of my husbands' dogs got loose (don't worry, I came to the rescue and got him safely back in his pen!). Needless to say, my blood pressure was... elevated. When my husband called to check on everything, I suddenly noticed that I wanted to give him a hard time about my day. He was "safe" at work, far from the crazy, stress-filled day here at home. And let's not forget that it was HIS dog that got loose....
I had an urge to give him the cold shoulder; to exaggerate my "horrid" day; to blame him in that sweet-but-not-so-sweet nagging way. And I felt convicted.
Did I want to be dramatic??

Perish the thought!

To be honest, I detest drama. It annoys me to see petty Tweets and Facebook statuses that are simply subtle ways of stirring up strife and hateful feelings and actions. But there are other ways that drama can rise that even the most mature Christian can fall prey to. In the case with my husband, I unknowingly wanted to be dramatic. I wanted to be the victim. I wanted to be the center of attention. I wanted the power of making him feel like it was all his fault.

*shakes head*

I can just hear the Lord say, "Oh dear daughter....please grow up."

Drama hits every age. In tweens and teens, the drama is usually boys and popularity. In adulthood, it's social stance, power, and success. But drama is also a struggle with the wife, mommy, and homemaker. It creeps in quietly, but before we know it, we go off on our husbands and children over the silliest things that, quite frankly, are NOT that big of a deal.

No, I did not exactly WANT to go into battle for my home with 1,000 ants...but I can handle it.

No, I reeeeeally did not enjoy chasing down a crazy dog and being dragged around the yard when I did  finally catch him.... but it's not an impossible feat.

I guess I learned that I need to get a grip. If I allow myself to act so childish, crying over every little thing, then what will my children learn from me? What will I be teaching them?

May HIS grace continue to grow me....

Romans 12:10 says, "Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another."


Amanda said...

Thanks for the great reminder! Buddy came down with strep yesterday and it has been crazy here with all three children. I tend to do the same thing...exaggerate for sympathy. But this being a stay at home mommy is the job that God has called me to. It isn't always glamourous (cleaning up vomit for the third time) but it comes with some pretty big perks (lots of cuddle time and hugs). Thanks for the reminder to watch what I'm teaching Buddy, Sweetpea, and Ladybug as I react to situations at home!

Denise said...

Awesome reminder.

Kathleen said...

Oh how I have been there but now that the kids have flown the coup I can't come up with much "drama" but I do know people who are addicted to it. It is sad to be sure. Love your honesty... :) Have a wonderful day.


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